By Danika, TeenSource Blogger
Having sex for the first time can be nerve-wracking. A million questions and worries might run through your mind. Will it hurt? What if I get pregnant? How do I put on a condom? How will I know what to do? Here’s a quick run through of the answers to some of those questions!
Will it hurt?
If it hurts during your first time, it most likely means that you don’t have enough lubrication or that you are nervous and clenching your vaginal muscles. It is natural for your first time, but if you are too uncomfortable, you might want to reconsider being sexually active and whether or not it’s the right time for you.
What if you get pregnant?
This is a very good thing to consider and also an easy worry to remedy. TeenSource offers both a Clinic Finder and information on birth control so that you can learn more about the different methods and be informed when you talk to your provider about your options. And remember, you CAN get pregnant, even on your first time, if you don’t use birth control. A condom is a great option!
How do you put on a condom?
Guys, this is a common worry, but it just takes a little time to get it right! When first opening the condom, try to determine which way the condom is rolled by testing it on your finger first. Place the condom over the tip of the penis and leave about half an inch of space at the tip to collect semen. Make sure to roll the condom all the way down to the base of your penis to assure that it doesn’t slip off during sex. And don’t forget that you can get condoms for FREE from TeenSource’s Condom Access Project! Also, check out this video on how to put on a condom: http://youtu.be/AVirEBUoLDs?list=UU6WP7bqnCbinVVfJJKHxBrg
How will you know what to do?
Honestly, there is no right or wrong when it comes to sex, as long as it’s consensual—both partners are willing and happy to go for it! Just have fun with it. If you and your partner are both beginners, then it can be something that you both can learn along the way. If one of you is a little more experienced than the other, then your partner may be able to guide you and walk you through the steps towards feeling more comfortable with sex. But overall, it’s a learning experience and there’s no rush.