The decision to have sex for the first time is a deeply personal one. So, if your friend tells you they are thinking about having sex, it's probably not the best idea to pressure them one way or the other. As a friend, however, you can take the opportunity to make sure they have the information and resources to play it safe if and when they do have sex.
Here are a few questions to throw into your conversation:
- Have you talked about having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner? It's really important for both people to be on the same page when it comes to sex - and not just the first time you have it, but everytime. This video sums up the importance of consent.
- Have you and your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner been tested for STDs lately? There is an epidemic of STDs among youth and young adults in California right now, and most teens who have an STD don't know it. Make sure you both get tested before having sex by visiting a clinic near you.
- Do you have condoms easily accessible just in case? Even after ensuring you are both STD-free, you should use condoms each and every time you have sex. You can get free condoms here.
- If you are planning on having sex with someone of the opposite sex, are you using birth control? Condoms are great, but if you are having sex with someone of the opposite sex, you should also be using another form of birth control to prevent pregnancy. Learn about your many birth control options here.
Regardless of the decision your friend makes, you can rest easier knowing they have the tools to make the best decision for them!