By Rocio, Peer Health Educator
There will come a time in your life when you fall in love; I mean REALLY fall in love. And you're just never the same person after that---I mean that in the best way possible. The most important thing I learned while being in a relationship was how to love someone. I'm going to share some tips on how to have a healthier relationship.
I know it's great to find out that someone you like and find attractive likes you back, but sometimes, we girls get carried away waiting for a Prince Charming that will shower us with roses, chocolate and gifts. We all go through a "honeymoon" phase at the beginning of a relationship and when it's over, that's when things start to get serious. This is the point at which you begin to discover whether or not you really like the other person as much as you thought you did or if you actually just like the idea of them. Trust is essential in order to have a healthy relationship. That means you don't need to be checking up on each other every minute when you're out with your family or friends, constantly going through each other's inbox on social networks or getting jealous when you both talk to other people. Respecting each other's privacy and space makes things a lot easier in a relationship.
Have you ever heard the saying, "Communication is key?" It's also essential. Whether you're two miles or two hundred miles apart, communication is crucial. When there are minor issues that bother you, it's always important to talk about them, even if you don't believe they're important. They can build up and can eventually cause a harsh breakup or can lead to verbal abuse which is unhealthy. Face to face communication is even better. As fortunate as we are to have social networks and phones to quickly connect us to our loved ones, sometimes we can get ahead of ourselves and say things we wouldn't have the guts to say in person. Finding someone who you are completely comfortable with may be a challenge, but if you're patient, they'll come along one day.
Consistency can be difficult. When you are in a relationship with someone, it is understandable that you will make mistakes. However, if you do care for the other individual you will work at it consistently. But it should go both ways. You are a team. This advice doesn't only work with a significant other; it can also apply to family and friendships as well. Ultimately, that is the mere beauty of relationships---to coexist and enjoy life together. What do you believe is essential to a relationship?