Being in a healthy relationship, whether it’s a friend, a crush, or a partner—means respecting each other’s boundaries, including online. And that starts with knowing what you’re okay with and how to talk about it.
💚 What are Green Flags?
Green flags are the good signs that show you’re in a safe, respectful, and caring relationship. One big green flag is when someone respects your digital boundaries, how you want to be treated when texting, posting, sharing, or using social media apps together. Talking about what you’re okay with online might feel awkward at first, but open communication is the only way to build trust and feel comfortable.
Healthy Digital Boundaries Look Like:
Here are some things to think about and talk about with your friends or partner:
- Respecting privacy (yours and theirs)
- Is it okay to tag each other in posts or check ins?
- Are you both okay with sharing your relationship online, like pictures?
- Can they follow your friends or message them?
- Do you want space when texting or expect quick replies?
- Is it okay to use each other’s phones or passwords?
- Checking in with yourself first
- What are you personally comfortable with?
- What makes you feel safe, seen, and respected online?
- Knowing who to talk to
- If something feels off or makes your uncomfortable, it’s okay to reach out to a supportive adult, school counselor, or support resource.
🚩 Red Flags: What to Watch Out For
What does it look like when someone crosses a digital boundary? Not all online behavior is okay or even the way people navigate using their own personal devices. Here are some red flags to pay attention to:
- Cyberbullying:
- Hurtful comments, threats, or spreading rumors online
- Cyberstalking:
- When someone won’t stop messaging, tracking, or watching your posts even after you have asked them to stop
- Feeling pressured:
- If someone tries to guilt you into sending sexually explicit pictures of yourself, sharing private information, or doing something you’re not okay with
- Unwanted attention:
- Like a stranger asking personal or inappropriate questions
- Sexting:
- Sending, receiving or someone pressuring you to send sexually explicit material of yourself. Especially if someone is a minor.
👉 Did you know? Sending, receiving, or asking someone who is under the age of 18 even if you’re close in age is illegal and counts as child sexual abuse material and can have legal outcomes. This can also include forwarding a sext that someone sends to you, especially without consent.
Boundaries Can Change
It’s totally normal for your boundaries to shift over time. Maybe something you were okay with at first doesn’t feel right anymore or vice versa. That’s okay. What matters is keeping the conversation open and making changes together with mutual respect.
You’re allowed to say no to something, even if you once said yes. You always have the right to control your choices, your body, and your digital space.