Have you ever heard someone say “inclusive language” and wondered what that actually means—or why it matters?

Inclusive language is about using words that make everyone feel seen, respected, and welcome. That means avoiding phrases or labels that might leave someone out or make them feel judged for who they are.

And yes—language changes! That’s a good thing. People are always finding better ways to express who they are, and as friends, classmates, and allies, it’s our job to learn and grow.

Why Does Inclusive Language Matter for the LGBTQ+ Community?

In the LGBTQ+ community, inclusive language can be the difference between someone feeling safe or left out. It helps people feel recognized for who they truly are, whether that’s about their gender, their sexuality, or their family. Respecting someone’s words means respecting them.

3 Easy Ways to Start Using More Inclusive Language

1. Ask people what terms they use

If someone shares they’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, listen to the words they use to describe themselves and then use those same terms. You don’t need to guess or assume. Just ask: “Hey, is there a term or pronoun you’d like me to use?”

2. Respect their identity

Don’t ask someone to explain why they identify the way they do. Just support them. Their identity is valid, even if it’s different from your own experience.

3. Talk about families, relationships, and people in more inclusive ways

Not all families have a “mom and dad.” Not all couples are “boyfriend and girlfriend.” Inclusive language includes everyone’s reality.

Try words like:

• “Parents” or “guardians” instead of “mom and dad”
• “Partner” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend”
• “Siblings” instead of “brother/sisters”
• “Niblings” instead of “niece/nephews”

Let’s Talk Pronouns

Pronouns are words we use to refer to someone without saying their name—like he/him, she/her, they/them. Using the correct pronouns is one of the simplest ways to respect someone’s identity. If you’re not sure what someone’s pronouns are, here’s how to ask:

✔️” Can I ask what pronouns you use?”

✖️ “What pronouns do you prefer?” (it’s not a preference, it’s who the person is)

There are also neo-pronouns like (xe/xem or fae/faer) that some people use to express their gender identity in a way that feels right to them. And some even choose nounself pronouns, which are completely personalized. It might sound new or unfamiliar, but the goal is the same—respect and inclusion. It might seem small, but these changes can have a big impact on making someone feel included.

The way we talk shapes the world around us. Using inclusive language shows that we care about everyone’s identity and experience—not just our own. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be open, curious, and kind. We are all responsible for how we treat others and using language that describes their experiences will be one basic way to show up.