Have you ever caught yourself wondering:
“Wait…was that flirting?”
“Is there a vibe, or am I reading way too much into this?”
You’re not alone. Flirting can be exciting, confusing, awkward, fun, all at the same time. And honestly? There’s no one “right” way to do it.
So, what is flirting?
Flirting is a way of communicating interest. It’s how people test the waters, feel out the energy, or show they might be into you. It can be subtle or obvious, serious or playful, and sometimes it’s just about connecting but not committing fully.
Different ways people flirt IRL
Flirting look different for everyone, but here are some common signs in person:
- Smiling, holding eye contact, or a playful wink
- Laughing together (especially when it feels easy and natural)
- Light teasing that’s kind, not hurtful
- Sitting closer or leaning in while talking
- Really listening like nodding, asking questions, remembering details
- Using romantic or flirty language
🌟Important reminder: flirting should always feel respectful, if it feel uncomfortable or mean that is not healthy.
Flirting over text and social media
Texting removes body language, tone, and facial expressions; so yeah flirting online can feel extra stressful.
A few tips:
- Emojis help set the vibe 😌 but don’t let them replace actual words
- Match their energy, if they’re replying slow you don’t have to fill in the silence
- Send a funny video, add them on Snapchat, find other ways to talk
- Take it at your own pace
- If things start to feel off, you can always say:
- “Hey, I think I’d rather stay friends.”
You don’t owe anyone access to you. Online or in person.
How can I tell if someone is flirting with me?
It’s not always obvious, and that’s okay. Some signs they might be interested:
- They give you extra attention
- They ask you questions and remember what you say
- They flirt back when you flirt first
Still unsure, but curious? Try something low stakes like a compliment or a joke. If they match the vibe, cool. If not that might be your answer.
How do I flirt?
Flirt in a way that feels like you. Not pretending about anything.
Here are some ideas:
- Be yourself: Talk about what you actually like. If they’re not into the real you. That’s also valuable information.
- Smile: Simple, low risk and effective.
- Eye contact: it can show interest, but no need to stare them down.
- Talk or text casually: Small conversations help you see where things could go.
Things to keep in mind
- Not everyone is comfortable with flirting, and that’s valid.
- Boundaries matter (yours and theirs)
- Flirting doesn’t always lead to something, and that’s okay
- Rejection can sting, but it doesn’t define your worth 💛
What to avoid:
- Cheesy pick up lines that don’t sound like you
- Putting yourself down (or them down)
- Making fun of someone
- Touching someone without asking, consent is always key
Flirting isn’t a one-time thing, it can be slow and build over time. Sometimes the best part is the anticipation. If there’s a spark. Let it grow naturally. If not, you still learned something about yourself. Slow down, and enjoy the moment.