Discrimination isn’t just something you read about in history books. For a lot of us, it shows up in our classrooms, our families, our relationships, and even in places that are supposed to keep us safe.
Whether it’s racism, homophobia, transphobia, or all of the above, being targeted for who you are can make you feel small, angry, invisible, or exhausted. And when you’re young, it can feel even heavier–like you’re carrying something no one else can see. You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re responsible for something that is deeply unfair.
Microaggressions are also part of this system. They are everyday, often unintentional slights or comments that make people feel disrespected or undervalued based on their identity, such as race, gender, or sexual orientation.
Microaggressions can sound like:
- “You speak English so well”
- “Who is the man/woman in the relationship?”
- “Can I touch your hair?”
- “You don’t seem queer”
When you experience racism, microaggressions, or homophobia, it isn’t “just words.” Your brain literally processes discrimination as a threat.
That can cause:
- Anxiety or panic
- Trouble Sleeping
- Depression or numbness
- Feeling constantly on edge
- Low self-esteem
- Feeling like you don’t belong anywhere
This is called minority stress–the chronic stress that comes from being treated as “less than” in a society that wasn’t built for you. Over time, it can wear you down emotionally and physically.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I so tired all the time?” or “Why do I feel broken?”--it’s NOT you, it’s what you’ve been forced to do by your body to survive.
You don’t deserve the hate! Even if it comes from people close to you
One of the hardest parts about discrimination is that it doesn’t always come from strangers. Sometimes it comes from:
- Classmates
- Teachers
- Friends
- Family
- Romantic partners
When people who are supposed to love or protect you are racist or homophobic, it can mess with your sense of reality. You might start wondering:
- “Am I too sensitive?”
- “Maybe I’m the problem.”
- “Maybe I really am unlovable.”
Please ALWAYS remember: abuse, racism, and homophobia are never your fault. Being Black, queer, trans, or different in any way is not something you need to apologize for.
Get Support with TeenSource
If discrimination is affecting your mental health, relationships, or safety, TeenSource can help you find resources:
- Finding a clinic
- LGBTQ+ friendly care
- Mental health resources
- Youth-centered support
- Knowing Your Rights
You deserve care, respect, and a future that feels safe
By Mariyah Williams (YAB Intern) 💚