You can’t always control what people say or do, but you can protect yourself.
1. Name what’s happening
Instead of internalizing it, try saying:
“That was racist.”
“That was homophobic.”
“That was harmful.”
Putting words to it helps your brain understand that it’s not you that’s broken, the situation is. There’s nothing wrong with you.
2. Get your feelings out of your body
Discrimination gets stored in the nervous system. That’s why it can feel so heavy.
Try:
- Writing or journaling
- Talking to someone you trust
- Crying
- Moving your body (walking, dancing, stretching)
- Breathing exercises
- Art, music, or poetry
There is no “right” way to release pain–only healthier ways than holding it in. Find what works best for you.
3. Find people who see you
You deserve spaces where you don’t have to explain yourself.
Look for:
- LGBTQ+ clubs
- BIPOC student unions
- Support groups
- Online communities
- Youth centers or clinics
- Organizations like TeenSource
Being around people who understand you can be life-changing. What helped me the most personally was creating my own spaces. I started my own organization and clubs at school to bring together youth who’ve been through similar experiences as I had.
4. Set boundaries when you can
You don’t owe access to people who hurt you.
It’s okay to:
- Mute or block people
- Walk away
- Say “that’s not okay”
- Limit time with harmful family members
- Choose your peace
Protecting yourself is not rude by any means, it’s survival.
If you’re being targeted or feel unsafe
If racism or homophobia is making you feel unsafe at school, home, or in a relationship, you deserve support.
You are not broken—you’re brave!
Living in a world that questions your existence takes strength. Loving yourself in a society that tries to erase you is an act of resistance.
Your identity is not the problem.
Your race is not the problem.
Your sexual orientation or gender is not the problem.
The problem is a world that still struggles to treat everyone with dignity.
And the fact that you are still here, still trying, still dreaming is beyond powerful. You should be proud of yourself.
Get Support with TeenSource
If discrimination is affecting your mental health, relationships, or safety, TeenSource can help you find resources:
- Finding a clinic Free or low-cost clinics
- LGBTQ+ friendly care
- Mental health resources
- Youth-centered support
- Knowing Your Rights
You deserve care, respect, and a future that feels safe.
By Mariyah Williams (YAB Intern) 💚