The holidays can be a mix of cozy and complicated. For some people, this time of year means fun traditions and quality time. For others, it might bring stress, tension, or pressure to act a certain way. No matter what your experience looks like your feelings are real, and you deserve to show up in ways that protect your mental and emotional well-being.
TeenSource is here with a few tools to help you get through the holiday season feeling grounded and supported to be your true self.
Tip#1: Take Space, Guilt Free
Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially with family. You might worry about hurting someone’s feelings or being “too much.” But here’s the truth: You’re allowed to take space when something feels off or unsafe.
If someone is disrespecting you, crossing a line, or commenting on parts of your identity or life that feel uncomfortable, you can try saying things like:
- “I don’t want to talk about that right now.”
- “That makes me uncomfortable.”
- “What a weird thing to say.”
If people push back, remember their reaction isn’t your responsibility. You get to decide what’s healthy for you.
Tip #2: Lean on Friends or Chosen Family
Spending time with people who truly get you can lower stress and help you feel more grounded. If you can’t be with your friends in person, hopping on Facetime, sending voice notes, or sharing TikToks back and forth can still make you feel connected.
Have a family event you’re not necessarily looking forward to? If possible, bring a friend you trust. Having someone in your corner can make things feel way more manageable.
Tip #3: Remember: No One’s Holiday is Perfect
Social media makes it look like everyone else is living their “main character holiday moment.” But behind every cute post is whole reality that doesn’t make the feed.
If scrolling starts to make you compare yourself or feel pressure to have a “perfect” holiday, it’s okay to take a break. Focus on what you need and not what you think your experience should look like.
Tip #4: Acknowledge your Feelings
Whatever you feel during the holidays whether it is joy, sadness, or even boredom is valid. You don’t have to force yourself to be cheerful when you’re going through something hard. Check in with yourself. Talk with a supportive adult, mentor, or friend if things feel heavy.
If you ever feel overwhelmed or have thoughts of suicide, please reach out right away:
- Call/Text/Chat: 988
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255
- The Trevor Project: Text “Start” to 678-678 or call 1-866-488-7386
You deserve support.
Tip #5: Take Time for You
Recharge, however, works best for your mind and heart. Listening to music, journaling, gaming, reading, going for a walk, or just taking a moment to breathe. If being around people boosts your mood, surround yourself with the ones who make you feel safe, and appreciated. If alone time helps you reset, take that break without guilt.
Self-care isn’t selfish, it is necessary.
Your holiday season doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Make it your own and find ways to honor your needs. 🌟